What do you do when you have an extremely choleric family? I am telling you it is not easy and I am finding that some strategies work great while others totally suck.
I have been pondering this as I watch our new GRIT Developmental Specialist working with Brendan. Extremely choleric, he demands that everything be done his way or it isn't done at all. Being that both Allan and I are of the same (or quite similar with me leaning a fair bit towards sanguine and him leaning a tad towards melancholy) we understand his personality and are able to give him the boundaries he needs, nay requires. Too many boundaries and his personality is quashed, leaving him with a mask, usually phlagmatic. Too few boundaries and he runs roughshod over everyone, demanding and beligerent in doing so.
Brendan's DS is a sanguine who wants him to enjoy his time with her, learning as he has fun. While that is awesome in theory, I am seeing this turn into his demanding everything be his way and on his terms (No, I hold my pencil like this) and his DS left wondering how she is going to address his needs within that context and being trampled by his strong personality (I am doing this, leave me alone). I will be having a talk with her about this on Monday (she is off today and tomorrow).
For those of you who may be feeling that this personality stuff is all Greek to you, take this personality test to find out more. Our family falls out like this (stronger personality first):
Allan - Choleric/Melancholy
Connie - Choleric/Sanguine
Eric - Sangine/Choleric
Ryan - Melancholy/Choleric
Brendan - Choleric/Melancholy
Breanna - Choleric/Sanguine
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